This article mostly targets ladies, because it's mostly ladies who seem to feel down and have low self-esteem due to how they look.
For the ladies, did you get rejected by a guy? Or did you not get noticed by a a guy who you like? Don't sweat it; if a guy didn't notice you then it's for a logical reason. May be he already has someone, or may be you didn't put yourself out there for him to notice. Well, if he did and he still rejected you then it's his loss, but don't ever think you are ugly. Remember this ladies, every woman is beautiful, but it takes the right guy to see that beauty. The right guy, who will think you are the most beautiful girl in the world will notice you without make up in your worst of days. I hope you don't pass up that guy, because that guy will treat you like a princess. We cannot all be attractive to everyone; one person may not find us attractive, but another person may find us to be models. It's all on how people think.
To fix this problem of you feeling ugly first, set your mind straight and think who are you first. You are a human being and you have the potential to do a lot. You are born in a way that makes you a unique person. I know you may feel like a social outcast sometimes but perhaps it's for the best. Outcasts are usually unique people who have hidden talents; their personality is unique because they don't occupy themselves with impressing other people.
If people want to be around you or be friends with you based on how you look, then those people are not worth it. Those people are superficial, and superficial people are never good people. Superficial people will always want something; they are selfish and their friendship is worthless.
Do not compare yourself with Hollywood Stars or models. These Stars have their own lives and their own path. If you are studying to be an accountant, do you really have time to keep up with your looks. You are better off taking care of education first than to worry about what people think about you. We all love attention, but there is a time and place for that. Hollywood Stars spend thousands of dollars in cosmetic work on themselves in order to look good. Do you have thousands of dollars for improving your looks? Not many of us do.
I had discussion with some girls who feel their nose isn't nice looking or their breasts are not big enough or they are not tall enough; my advice was too calm down. Physical appearance is a timely thing; physical image changes over time. Instead of focusing on your physical appearance, focus on developing your personality. Be confident on how you look and who you are.
There is a psychological term for a person who thinks he or she isn't good looking, it's called body dysmorphic disorder. It's basically preoccupation with minor or imagined defect in the person's appearance. This leads to stress, anxiety, and sometimes is leads to the person getting cosmetic surgery. Don't fall into that category. If you think you have this disorder, then please get some professional help.
How to Improve Your Physical Image
- First accept who you are and accept that you are fine the way you are.
- Eat a healthy diet, you need to eat well in order to look well. Don't starve your self.
- Exercise often, try to improve your body shape. Get in touch with a trainer or someone who is in body building or a health fanatic.
- Be around good people and develop you personality. Your personality can define your appearance.
- Get in touch with the latest trends and go shopping.
- Dress good and look good.
